We learn from mistakes. And it is true that it is never too late to change and transform errors into something positive. So if you also make some education error with your child, you have time to transform them completely with a simple change of attitude.
For this we look at the advice of a famous American writer on education and teaching methods, LR Knost, whose philosophy is based on the methods of the Montessori school. Here are the 5 education mistakes that you can completely change with the Montessori method.
If there is something that LR Knost knows, it is reflecting on the education of children. It is clear that it helps to have 6 children. The experience is a grade, which my grandmother used to say, so when someone with so much experience talks about education, I usually pay attention.
Laura R. Knost is an advocate of the positive learning method, the philosophy of the Maria Montessori school, and the education of children from affection. He says that many of our mistakes as parents, are related to the ‘classical’ form of education, based on authority and punishment. But it’s never too late to change.
In this case, Laura R. Knost talks about how we can change 5 education mistakes with children, the most frequent ones. We just have to change ourselves, as parents, our way of educating:
- Instead of manipulating, set an example. One of the most widespread errors among parents is manipulation. How is a child manipulated? For example, when we use affective blackmail: ‘If you do not pick up the toys, I will be very sad’. Or the threat: ‘If you do not pick up your toys, you will not be able to leave.’ The proposal of the writer is to transform manipulation into an example. Pick up the toys with the children so that they learn to do it in a good way. If they see that we can also collect our things, they will understand that it is something that they should also do.
- Instead of intimidating, you have to invite. Many parents make excessive use of their authority and come to intimidate their children. For a child, it is like a wall that he does not dare to cross. But instead of intimidating, invite your child to do something, you will be building a bridge and you can also generate much more confidence in him. Trust generates that wonderful effect of illusion, self-esteem and reward. Normally, who gives confidence, will receive it. If you invite your child to do something instead of ordering it by force, he will respond positively.
- Instead of embarrassing, tell him everything he does well. There is nothing worse than embarrassing and humiliating a child. It is as if you are throwing a slab on your self-esteem and on the confidence, you feel towards you. Then do not complain if he does not tell you nothing and the communication with him gets worse. The best, in contrast to highlighting again and again everything he does wrong, trust him and highlights what he does well. You will get him to want to do more and more good things every time to win more praises.
- Instead of threatening, teach. It is demonstrated that shouting and threats are not good for anything. Moreover, they generate a kind of block in children and prevent them from learning. Teaching implies the opposite: instead of saying ‘If you do not do your homework, you will not play all afternoon’, show her what happens if she does not do homework: ‘You have not done your homework because you preferred to watch TV, so you cannot play. You have to do homework. ‘
- Instead of punishing, educate. Punishments in most cases do not work. Children, in the long run, learn to lie to get rid of them. Education can work perfectly without punishment. If you give your child responsibilities, you teach him through routines to respect a series of rules, teach him by example and teach him to ‘mend’ his mistakes, you will be educating him without the need of punishment.